All you want is your ex back, and nothing else will do.So here’s a thought: what if you could date someone who looks just like your ex?He has even gone so far as to tell me that he dreams about me and can’t fall back asleep, that he wishes he could still protect me, and that he is sorry for everything he did to hurt me in our relationship. I want to be friends with this man as he has been a huge part of my life, but I want to respect their relationship. — Seeking an EXplanation have some idea of the continued — and, frankly, inappropriate — relationship between you two or else why would she be so quick to pull him away?But then he quickly follows up with “…but I have a girlfriend.” I asked him if his girlfriend knew we were talking like this. Well, a few nights ago I ran into him at a bar and we were just talking for few minutes, and his girlfriend glared at me the entire time. At any rate, your question isn’t really about her or even her relationship with your ex-boyfriend; it’s about you and whether you can have a friendship with your ex.But here’s another thought: if the only way you can stomach online dating is by trying to find someone just like your ex, maybe what you really need is a time out instead.“Sometimes you need a little bit of time in between rather than jumping right back in,” says online dating coach Julie Spira. “I’m always encouraging [daters] to jump out of their comfort zone,” says Spira.If it were, he would be treating you with a lot more respect than he is.Because while you’re concerned about showing respect to the relationship he has with his new girlfriend, you seem to be missing the complete and utter lack of respect he’s showing to you.
Is there a part of you — and I’m assuming there must be — that is finding it difficult to leave the past in the past with such constant reminders from such an immediate and significant person from it?Sylvia wanted to settle down but I was not ready to commit so young.